Lila talks being white while raising bi-racial children.
There are many interracial families in the world. Sharing different cultures can be interesting and fun, but being in a multi-race family isnt always glitter and gold. I am sharing Lila’s experiences as being a mom and head of household for a mutli-race family.
Lila is a white female from south Louisina. After graduating highschool, she went out and joined the Air Force. She was in the Air force for 7 1/2 years and even lived in Germany while enlisted. While there, she met a friend who was black from north America. She later married that friend, became pregnant with her first child and left the Air Force.
Her sister Laura remembers when she moved back to Louisiana. Mikey was almost two. Lila said she knew everyone she was stationed with while in the Air Force and coming back to Louisiana was sort of a culture shock for her. She said that people would often stare at her family because they all were different shades. But, she said when people starred it never really bothered her, it just made her notice it more.
10 years later she had her second child, Mckenna. Mckenna and Lila became very close throughout the years and would often share stories about school and work. Sometimes Mckenna would come home and tell Lila that the other children didn’t want to play with her because she was brown.
As a mother you want to call the school and tell them your child is getting bullied about her skin color, but there’s so much you can say.
Her other sister Lana says that Lila always looks at the good and positive in every situation. Because of that, Lila said her experiences as a white mother to bi-racial children aren’t all bad.
Five years later, when she was 39 she had Mallory. Mallory has the same problems Mckenna had in school sometimes. Children sometimes don’t want to play with her. As an older parent now, Lila said she tries to brush the comments off and stay positive. Mallory sometimes doesn’t understand why some families don’t look the same. Lila sometimes has to explain to her that families come in all shapes and colors.
When I asked Lila what is the most common thing that happens to her while being a bi-racial parent she said people ask her if her kids are adopted alot. She said she just replies, nope, they’re hers. Also, she said when she moved one time, the child across the street asked if her husband was the butler. She said she just laughed it off. Kids don’t understand. She said the most important thing for a mother of any race to do it to always love their child no matter what, she said when asked advice for other mothers like her.